Mums spend loads of time, energy and money nurturing their children’s dreams. What about you, Mom? Do you have something you have always wanted to try? Is there a dream that has been put on hold? Perhaps you haven’t stopped to think about what else you might like for your life. Let me share a story with you.
When I turned 40, I plucked up the courage to do something I had never done before. I auditioned for a play. I had never taken an acting class or auditioned for anything (other than a failed attempt at cheerleading). Yet, deep down, I knew that if I didn’t at least give it a try, I would always feel like a part of me was never set free. To this day, I am glad I acted (no pun intended) on my inner calling as amateur dramatics has enriched my life in many ways.
There are a few reasons I wanted to share this story. As an advocate for mums, I am here to say NO! don’t let your dreams go! What a loss to you, your family and the world. Yes, life gets busy. But giving birth to children does not have to mean the death of your aspirations. Whatever time of life you are in, I believe you can create, excavate, dust and breathe new life into your dreams. Here are a few tips that my venture into acting has taught me.
Something Will Always Get in the Way, if You Let it.
Indeed, balancing home and professional pursuits is very demanding. There are also other obstacles that can get in the way: fear, procrastination, distraction, lack of confidence, direction, time, funds or energy. Yet, if you wait for the perfect time to explore a career move, pick up on an old dream or discover ways to improve your life, there is a possibility that the “right time” may never come. Where there is a will, there is a way. Only you can decide to make now “the right time.”
Honour Your Inner Calling
Not honouring a calling can cause regret later in life. Trusting your instincts, presents the opportunity to live life more fully. Yes, courage and compromise may be required but your aspirations are worth it. The benefits are: you are likely to be a happier parent, a better role model and lead a more fulfilling life. Having work or passions you enjoy can also make it easier to transition to the empty nest.
Embrace Doubt and Uncertainty
New endeavours cause doubt and uncertainty. It’s normal. If we want our children to have the courage to try new things, we have to be courageous too. When you feel unsure or anxious, a useful technique is to tell yourself “I am about to learn something new.” In reference to acting, if I knew things would go perfectly, the process wouldn’t be as exhilarating. Stepping into the unknown may be frightening but it is also rewarding.
Go Big or Go Small, Just Go!
Lastly, you don’t have to pile pressure on yourself to set the world on fire or climb the highest mountain. (Although if you want to do that, go for it)! I don’t need to be a movie star to fully enjoy acting. As a coach, I have supported others in honouring themselves in big ways and small. Whether redefining a career direction, starting a new business, joining a local writing group or skiing on a dry slope, it is never too late and there are many ways to enjoy the aliveness that new experiences can bring.
I invite you to pause for a moment.
- Are you “waiting in the wings” in any area of your life?
- Do you feel you have a dream or calling that has not been heeded?
- What is holding you back?
When you take action toward fulfilling your dreams, you will move from existence to aliveness; towards a life without regrets. Go for it! As they say in the world of theatre, “break a leg.”
Lisa Harter, ACC, CPCC, is a life coach and writer who specialises in working with moms, because mothers deserve more. Lisa believes mums are VIPs whose well-being is crucial to the health of the family unit. Since 2011, she’s been coaching women to achieve personal and professional fulfilment while they successfully meet the demands of family life. Lisa has lived and worked in the US., U.K., and Middle East. She knows first-hand what it’s like to juggle personal and career pursuits while raising children and maintaining those all-important relationships with family “back home.” To find out how you can work with Lisa, contact her.